“A woman cannot be comfortable without her own approval.” – Unknown

            Tony Robbins, Mel Robbins, Jack Canfield, and John Maxwell teach the power of affirmations. They are firm believers that what we say to ourselves matters more than what others say to us. I believe this notion as well. As Jen Sincero says in her New York Times bestselling book, “You are a BAD ASS.”

Think about it – if you don’t believe you are great, awesome, wonderful, beautiful, and the list can go on, then you cannot expect for anyone else to believe it either. What you believe about yourself is projected into the world. You must love yourself before the rest of the world does. If you want to accomplish something in life you must first believe you can achieve it. This starts with the words you speak to yourself. 

There are various thoughts on how and when to say affirmations. I don’t like to complicate things. I don’t think it matters when you say them – whether it is in the morning, or before bed, or out loud or to yourself – as long as you say them until you believe what you are saying and until what you want comes to fruition. 

I will give this disclaimer: just saying affirmations will not make you a millionaire or give you the dream house you want. Just like anything in life, you must put in the work. Say the affirmation then get to work on loving yourself to the fullest.

Here are 5 self-love affirmations to get you started:

  1. I am letting go of the past and moving forward. 

 The past is gone, and it is not coming back. The best thing you can do with the past is learn from it and not repeat it. If you are holding on to something you did in the past forgive yourself so you can embrace what the future holds. 

2. I am very proud of myself

How often do you say this to yourself? I don’t know you, but I am almost certain you have done something fantastic during your years here on earth. Stop and give yourself a pat on the pack and tell yourself “I am damn proud of you, (your name).”

3. I am enough.

Has anyone told you that you need to work on something or that you are not good enough? Well, let’s flip this around. Instead of thinking that you did not fit someone else’s requirements or standards say to yourself that their standards did not fit your requirements. No one is perfect; however, you are enough the way you are now. Accept your flaws and imperfections.

4. I am…

What comes after these two powerful words is entirely up to you. Take some time and journal your thoughts on what you should say next.  What are you feeling? What are you thinking? If I can give my humble opinion, I think you should say I am freaking awesome. Let’s start there.

5. I love you _________ (Your Name)

Be honest here. How often do you say you love yourself? Go ahead and try it right now. How did it feel? Did it make you smile? I know when I say it, it makes me smile. Keep saying it until you believe it.

The purpose of affirmations is to speak positivity into your life through the one person who should believe it first and that is YOU! 

I hope these 5 self-love affirmations get you started on a journey of self-love. Saying affirmations is a stepping stone to creating harmony in your life.

Keep winning and creating harmony in your life.

Marla J. Albertie

Your Life-Harmonizing Strategist